Interesting topic this week for the Heart of the Matter Meme. I usually don’t differentiate between those two roles of teacher and mother. I think it’s because I view motherhood as a teaching, guiding, instructive role but instead of teaching academics I teach other life skills – cooking, budgeting, sewing, spiritual guidance, moral values, etc. Being a homeschool mom those varied teaching moments happen all day long with all of my children. There isn’t time to to think, “Now I will be a teacher,” or “Now I will be mother.” They are one and the same for me. I believe any mother feels the same whether they homeschool or not.
During “school hours” I do tend to have more of a teacher attitude as I tutor my children in the 3 R’s and science, history, music, and art. My children even call me ‘Teacher” during that time. It started off as a game but the habit has been created. The rest of our day is spent doing household tasks – laundry, cleaning, cooking – and other activities – playing, sewing, hobbies. Most of them we do together. My children learn from me how to properly iron a shirt, plan a menu, dance in the kitchen, have a tickle fight, scrub a toilet, say their prayers, read their scriptures, and love one another. A mother is never off duty; she is constantly teaching.
“Perhaps the teacher you and I remember best is the one who influenced us most. She may not have used a chalkboard nor possessed a college degree, but her lessons were everlasting and her concern genuine. Yes, I speak of Mother.”
~ Thomas S. Monson ~
My divine role as a mother allows me the privilege of calling upon God for His guidance on how to care for those precious souls He has entrusted to my care. As Elder Jeffrey R. Holland so eloquently stated, “When you have come to the Lord in meekness and lowliness of heart and, as one mother said, “pounded on the doors of heaven to ask for, to plead for, to demand guidance and wisdom and help for this wondrous task,” that door is thrown open to provide you the influence and the help of all eternity. Claim the promises of the Savior of the world. Ask for the healing balm of the Atonement for whatever may be troubling you or your children. Know that in faith things will be made right in spite of you, or more correctly, because of you….Remember, remember all the days of your motherhood: “Ye have not come thus far save it were by the word of Christ with unshaken faith in him, relying wholly upon the merits of him who is mighty to save. (2 Nephi 31:19)” Jeffrey R. Holland, “‘Because She Is a Mother’,” Ensign, May 1997, 35
I am so grateful that I can be a mother and a teacher to my children. It is time well spent, an investment with great dividends, a gift precious to me.
Island School House says
I so needed this last quote today! Thank you for posting. I posted something along these lines a few months ago: http://islandschoolhouse.com/homeschool/?p=60
Right now, I’m off to “pounded on the doors of heaven to ask for, to plead for, to demand guidance and wisdom and help for this wondrous task.”
As usual, thanks Cocoa!
Catherine says
Great stuff. Thanks for posting!
Catherine
Letitia says
I agree. I am a mother, and as so, I teach my children to prepare them for the life God has called them to. I am not a “teacher”. Just ask those who have seen me try to teach a class of children at church. UGH! Definitely not my calling.
Look at all of those precious girls! I thought I had a houseful of them! We have four.
Sherry says
Thank you for sharing! I am a new homeschooler, so I am trying to find the right balance. I think you hit the nail on the head with your post.
Have a great weekend!
the lazy reader says
What a wonderful insight. As a homeschooler who doesn’t really do much “homeschooling” yet its nice to be reminded that my girls are being taught how to live life and keep a home just by following me around every day and “helping mom.”
tina says
beautiful quote an great words.
Yvonne says
Cocoa, thanks for sharing such wise words! You’re blog is being featured in the Heart of the Matter Online Newsletter being sent out tomorrow.
Thanks again, for sharing!
Mommymita says
I love being both – it is great to snuggle in bed with a child during their reading time or nurse a baby while flipping through math flash cards.
I will also add that I take on the role of student as well. I probably learn way more from my kids than I actually teach them
Thanks for the great quotes !
Karin Katherine says
What a great quote! I had not heard that one before…hmmm, might have to steal that one for a future post and to print out for my Homeschool Binder!
Michal says
balance? what balance? i’m with you–teacher is just one of our roles as mothers, whether our kids attend school or not. it is our calling and our blessing. and i find that i learn so much myself as i teach my children about life, the gospel, controlling their impulses . . . oh, and history, math, and science!